Sister Wives’ partriarch Kody Brown and his first wife, Meri Brown, have been divorced for almost 10 years, but there are some things that fans might not know about their marriage.

Long before Kody said that loving Meri “isn’t safe,” the couple, who tied the knot in 1990, originally planned to have way more kids – eight to be exact.

Kody and Meri had similar upbringings, having grown up in big families with several siblings.

So, it was only natural that they planned to have a big family of their own.

On top of adding wives who would also have kids, Meri and Kody planned to have eight children together, but things didn’t go according to plan for a heartbreaking reason.

According to the Sister Wives Fandom, the pair began experiencing issues with conceiving due to Meri’s unexplained infertility, which she struggled with for most of their marriage.

After getting pregnant in 1994 and giving birth to Leon (formally Mariah) in 1995, Meri only got pregnant again once more throughout her marriage to Kody.

Meri’s second pregnancy in 2007 ended in a miscarriage.

The couple tried many times after that for another baby, but failed.

In 2012, during Sister Wives Season 4, Meri opened up about her fertility struggles.

She opened up about her miscarriage and detailed her elation about being pregnant after years of fertility issues that quickly turned to tears when doctors couldn’t detect a heartbeat at 10 weeks, which meant her pregnancy was not viable (per ET).

On June 1, Meri once again opened up about the miscarriage on Instagram, noting she knew the baby was a boy in her heart.

She also wrote that she wondered what life would have looked like if her baby had made it.

Meri wrote: “Today was a travel day for me, and as I was driving through this town tonight, I saw a group of three teenage looking boys, maybe 15 or 16 years old, walking down the street, hands in pockets, chit chatting away, and I just had to smile and almost sort of giggle to myself.

“It was a fun, and even bittersweet, moment for me, realizing that had my baby survived, he might be engaging in that same sort of teenaged banter, and having those same sort of memorable teenaged moments. Granted, I don’t know for sure that my baby was even a boy, but my gut tells me it was. He’d be 15 now, and I often wonder what life would be like with him here.”

She concluded: “There’s often a lot of sorrow and pain surrounding that loss, but having that moment of joy today, seeing those boys happy and alive, was healing in a way for me. Just one of today’s little moments of gratitude.”

Now, the couple have been divorced for almost 10 years after calling it quits in 2014, the same year Kody wed fourth wife Robyn.

In an episode of the Sister Wives: Tell All, Meri referred to a sharp reference while opening up about Kody’s emotional availability and the standards she couldn’t meet in their plural marriage.

She revealed she felt her love and “loyalty” wasn’t valued by Kody throughout their marriage.

“He said he did, you know, years ago,” she explained to host Sukanya Krishnan. “I don’t think what he saw, he valued.”

Meri also claimed she bent over backwards and obliged in all of Kody’s requests in order to save their marriage.

She recalled: “All these things to be able to fix a relationship and I did every one of the things that he asked me to.”

Despite her best efforts, the inn owner said “it just wasn’t good enough.”

Meri added that Kody wasn’t “emotionally available” to her.

Watching him give that access to his other wives wasn’t a “dagger to the heart,” but a “knife in my kidneys.”

She laughed after making a reference to Kody’s famous line during his previous explosive confrontation with his third wife Christine Brown.